Even ordinary conversations sometimes felt like negotiations.
Eventually, I grew tired of it.
So I decided to live differently for a while.
I moved into a small rented apartment in San Diego, used my mother’s maiden name, Carter, and took a regular job with a local communications agency.
I continued helping with selected investment decisions privately, but I stayed out of publicity and corporate ceremonies.
My parents understood my reasons, although my father worried that I was making life unnecessarily difficult for myself.
“You shouldn’t have to hide everything you’ve worked for just to find someone decent,” he told me.
“Maybe not,” I answered. “But I want to know what it feels like to be chosen without a fortune attached to my name.”
Then I met Derek.
He was sitting alone in a coffee shop one rainy afternoon, working on a laptop covered with technology stickers.
When the café’s internet connection stopped working, he made a joke about owning a technology company while being defeated by a coffee shop router.